TerdFerguson, terdferguson@lemmy.ca

Well, I mean, you gotta live according to your values in order to be happy with yourself.

I’ve really disengaged with the idea that I need to compete with or assert my own views of what is righteous over what society presents for me as the template to follow. Rejecting that template for myself and accepting that others prefer it, accept it or are just unconcious altogether doesn’t really cause any kind of issue for me.

Everyone has a right to their own reasonable way of life; judging their ways is a cope for my own ego that I try to resist.

All this to say, I think I understand your position. You’ve thought quite deeply on it, and it sounds like an okay way to be.. but not for me.

Holy fuck that sounds exhausting.

I’d rather just be okay with where I’m at and the fact that nobody in the work world wants to be my friend. They can tell themselves whatever story they like to rationalize their feelings about me, don’t care.

At some point, its a waste of energy to climb the professional ladder any further. Find a comfortable spot where you can reasonably support your life, and then focus on the life.

I find my way away from it.

I think you do benefit from keeping an awareness for it, but really that just comes in the form of understanding the futility of being able to change it from an individual’s position. Best to accept it if you don’t want to be driven insane.

Find the things you can enjoy in life and maximize your attention on those things so that you can tolerate the intolerable realities of society.

You gotta pick which fucks to give… godspeed to anyone willing to make the sacrifices required to upset the applecart.

If you spend too much time paying attention to the sociological systems that organize our civilization, you will only become miserable.

Humanity, at scale, is a pretty terrible thing. It is because the exceptionally cruel, or selfish or greedy are rewarded rather than punished.

It’s perversely absurd that humans could learn how to both split and fuse the atom, but cant seem to figure out how to deal with exploitation

very detailed hypotheses all through out. I can agree with some of it. Some of it seems like it was given too much thought without referring substance to back it up.

6/10

I dont think i’ve ever considered the infodump from that angle.. it carries none of that intent whatsoever. I just get carried by the wave, happily so. Seems insane that it would be received as a diss.

the perpetual, nigh-unbroken chain of social rejection tells me as much. so yeah

I don’t think many people are saying that. It’s the heel-turn by the USA that causes them to prefer China lately.

As a Canadian, I personally agree that my stance on China has become more favourable because of the shift in perspective that the USA currently offers. Not because they’ve suddenly stopped imprisoning Uyghurs for existing.

Sam Altman understands nothing about being human.

Fucking wanker.

It is a common human trait, regardless of neurotype.

PLENTY of reasons, but also Trump.

No

Yes, I imagine that’s a significant part of it.

The next thing to do is to accept their behavior toward each other, that’s their relationship. Neither one of them is the good guy here, by the sounds of it, so don’t let them drag you intro that miserable world any more.

I think a lot of people go no contact because they can’t figure out how to just neutrally disengage. It’s a valid option, but I do think you could develop a selective kind of apathy for their nonsense and still appreciate their positive things they add to your life (if there are any?)

I can appreciate why train-gang is a thing. Not my thing though; this picture has no effect on me.

Involuntarily rendered muted or, occasionally, enraged.

So, I’m not a diagnostician, but if you have above average ability to read social cues, then that sure sounds like it excludes a diagnosis of autism.

I’m glad you disqualified your opinion before you shared it because ability for reading cues is a very narrow aspect of what could contribute to difficult social interactions.

Some of us develop a heightened kind of vigilance for social cues because of how we’ve been punished for our natural lack of understanding them, and that doesn’t necessarily confer ANY ability to effectively act on those cues appropriately in the way we ought to.

I have a very simple thought for you to consider.

Stop parenting your parents. Not your problem.

You can have a relationship with them if you can figure out how to offer them token sympathy for their self-inflicted miseries. You can’t get involved so much as to be a shoulder to cry on, and ear to bend for venting, or to help them with solutions.

No

People like you to fit the mental model they have of you and tend to reject the infomration that doesn’t match what they already believe.