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This is very relatable to me. I put on a lot of weight since the pandemic and its been so fun to flirt left and right and not be taken seriously, but every once in a while, someone likes big girls and bites. Panic.
I ‘flirt’ because dudes assume thats what I’m doing when I’m just having a conversation, and panic when they treat it like flirting. Because it isn’t, ever, I’m ace/aro, keep your dick in your pants; I just like human connection.
But I’m also a chick magnet and I can’t explain that away with basic human decency..? I guess I give off vibes? I mean ladies are 1,000,000 more appealing than men, but I still don’t want to sex them (tried both, meh)
Have you tried not being attractive? /s
I’m open to advice, but yes, I make no effort to be attractive. I’m clearly not a great judge, but I wouldn’t fuck me ;)
Haha it’s probably because you like human connection first over sex. That’s why you’re a chick magnet.
“Ace” is the same as asexual?
Yea, sorry, ace/asexual and aro/aromantic or not into relationships that aren’t platonic :)
I’m so sorry
Gross.
I’m not.
Horniness sounds like a massive burden, and romantic relationships are just friendships with touchy-feely stuff and lots of baggage I’m not into.
I will elaborate on my position: horniness and romantics are options to enjoy life.
And when someone is deprived of some of the options life gives, it is sad for me.
Thats not better.
Just because I’m not into what you are into doesn’t mean my life is lacking. You like chocolate, I don’t like sweets much at all but if I have to choose a flavor, I like the taste of un-flavored foods as much as I like a strong curry.
Same thing. You see my life as lacking because of what you think I should like based on what you like, but it’s plenty rich in ways that actually speak to what I like.
This person is not deprived of romantic relationships; they’re there if they chose to pursue them. They choose not to as they do not derive enjoyment from them. Do not feel sad, be happy they know themselves better than most.
Its both a burden and exhilerating.
In one way its like nagging hunger you have to feed, or don’t feed and are bothered by the hunger. But its also feels amazing like being hyper alert and biochemicals flowing, and if you eat its like a super tasty meal you can still savor later.
zloubidaThe one time it worked I panicked so hard I’m now married. No flirting for me anymore… (it’s probably better that way)
You can still flirt with your wife, you should go do it right now.
I do! Not right now, but I do. And still panic when ti works…
TJA!Good thing I don’t know how to flirt. So there is no reason to panic
SnausagesinaBlanket!shirtsthatgohard@lemmy.world is the better option to link on lemmy, as it will keep people in their home instance.
YoSoySnekBoiFunnily, both links look/act identical to me and keep me in my home instance. Must be an mbin thing?
If you use a mobile client thats probably the cause. On voyager they look the same to me as well.
The apps have been heavily developed to fix the instance interoperability quirks, but a lot of users are on web where the ! link works better.
If you are already on web version then idk. My info might be outdated.
A web client is still a client that can do custom logic for clicking links or rewrite them when processing markdown. I don’t know if popular web clients for either Lemmy or kbin do that, but they sure could!
Thats true, and all this stuff might just be outdated info :) its entirely possible the web clients have been adapted, and we just aren’t aware of it because.. who knows everything?
Flirt? So like talk for hours about Warhammer 40k, Star Trek, Battletech and historical Naval battles?
vaultdweller013I’m too stupid, aromantic, and autistic to recognize flirting resulting in the semi frequent situations where other people think I’m flirting but no I’m entirely serious about what I’m talking about with no ulterior motives.
There was at least one situation where I was info bitching about the lack of Bronze Age fantasy to some girl where she interrupted me to inform me she had no interest in sleeping with me, I informed her that I didn’t care and just wanted to talk about the Bronze age and Neolithic since my friends banned me from that subject for a month. Turns out she was in the field of Neolithic studies focused primarily on late neolithic Scandinavia and the possible merger of paleo Europeans and Indo-Europeans in the region, we had a 2 hour discussion on the Neolithic plague hypothesis.
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Still, it must be nice to be able to flirt on purpose.
I tried it once. Ended with spaghetti falling out of my pockets. Ran away crying and never tried it again.
Yo, his palms are spaghetti, spaghetti weak, arms are spaghetti. There’s spaghetti on his spaghetti already
Mine would read “I can’t flirt, please be direct.”