On a related note last summer I saw a girl walking out from the bar in one of those inflateable dinosaur costumes. That was the most standing out Iâve seen.
I sort of do this to my wife. Sheâs unbearably hot. Also sort of hates strangers.
Iâm kind of the attention seeker, but she will dress up for me sometimes. Last year we went to a Halloween party where she wore a black skin-tight snakeskin patterned catsuit. She also had on a horned black mask - she was a hot dragon.
But as a word of advice: take really, really good measurements multiple times at different times of the day and rely on the largest measurement collected for a given area. Also, only buy one the first time you purchase.
(The latter thing didnât bite us, but could have. The elbows, of all places, are a touch too small and after about an hour start to become uncomfortable.)
Edit: One last thing! If youâre going for a full body look and planning to actually wear it for a bit, get the crotch zipper, so you donât have to strip to pee. (I didnât because I kept thinking I wasnât gonna boink her while she wore it, because I have a one track mind, and that was a dumb decision.)
On the other side of the coin, you have to really go out of your way to find colors of certain things that arenât navy, grey, black, or white in Japan. I wear polos to work and I havenât seen one outside those colors in at least a few years now. Part of the problem is the fact that I need to shop in the fat dude section (which was true even before I was a fat dude because normal shirts here arenât designed for broad shoulders), but even in the rest of the store the color selections arenât great. I also live in the ass end of nowhere, so Iâm sure thereâd be more selection in like tokyo.
Well, menâs clothes are more muted in general, and youâre out of the usual size range, so thereâs going to be less choice ⊠I have to admit, I donât really look at men while out and about, so Iâm just going off womenâs clothing choices. And my opinion is formed from Vietnam, Singapore, and China
Iâve been there multiple times and can confirm. Among the younger population itâs like 90% black and white clothing. That number goes down as you look at older groups. However, almost all of the cars are also black or white.
I stuck out like a sore thumb wearing pink, orange, green, etc. Last time I went, I was in Seoul for a whole week. I saw one young person wearing pink, and maybe 10 young people wearing colorful outfits.
There is much more to see on Castro than a big dude wearing a pretty dress. I may glance but I gotta pay attention to the other mayhem happening around me.
Makes sense. Pretending to be something youâre not is helpful when seeking an asymmetrical relationship with an unbalanced power dynamic in your favor.
The difference is power structures and cultural incentives. Fuckboys tend to not react pleasantly to being turned down. I get more âhimboâ (keeping the male parallel theme going) vibes from Violet. Sheâs down to clown, isnât afraid to let that be known, but nothing screams that anything nonconsensual is happening here.
People fuck, who cares? She doesnât appear to be hurting anyone. Her posts are funny, it doesnât need to be deep.
But you canât actually reverse roles as a direct 1:1 because womenâs sexuality, bodily autonomy, authority arenât treated equal to menâs. Itâs inherently different because there isnât actually a direct inverse. I do think a post similar to this about a cute femboy wearing something similar in a similar situation would be getting upvotes and comments.
Your comment just reads like âyou can be a man or be politicalâ and think people only like this because itâs âpoliticalâ aka woke but there shouldnât be anything woke about a woman being sexually liberated, practicing choice and autonomy or refusing to conform, she has every right and I support that.
Did you make the /s super small? Like you wanted the littlest deniability that you werenât serious. We know youâre kidding, itâs just a weak joke. Like theyâre discussing feminism on Lemmy to get laid? Get some better material
I interpreted this as not really a condemnation, but explanation. As in, a person dresses this way because they want to be looked at, but it isnât an invitation to interact, but explained in second person.
Well two small things: first, thereâs a lot of ways to look good, and I donât buy âjust likes looking good, doesnât want attentionâ when there are ways to look good without drawing attention. There must be a reason to override that desire not to attract attention.
Second⊠I mean, itâs violets, we donât really need to speculate!
itâs violets, we donât really need to speculate!
Indeed. Sheâs been very upfront about the fact that sheâs seeking validation and amusement in the form of attention from men who are sexually repressed by their culture and has no intentions of returning any of the attention she receives from them unless it benefits her. Many Korean hearts will be broken this summer.
But hey, at least we get to upvote the memes about it and cheer for âgirl powerâ right?
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In what way do you consider yourself shy?
On a related note last summer I saw a girl walking out from the bar in one of those inflateable dinosaur costumes. That was the most standing out Iâve seen.
in no way, itâs just how this meme format goesđ©
âItâs violet isnât it?â
âYup, of courseâ
No wonder the korean dads cant control themselves
I sort of do this to my wife. Sheâs unbearably hot. Also sort of hates strangers.
Iâm kind of the attention seeker, but she will dress up for me sometimes. Last year we went to a Halloween party where she wore a black skin-tight snakeskin patterned catsuit. She also had on a horned black mask - she was a hot dragon.
Damn bro here flexing on us with their actual dragon girl gf
If we ever get the neon soaked cyberpunk future we deserve Iâm buying several of these, damn
You absolutely should.
But as a word of advice: take really, really good measurements multiple times at different times of the day and rely on the largest measurement collected for a given area. Also, only buy one the first time you purchase.
(The latter thing didnât bite us, but could have. The elbows, of all places, are a touch too small and after about an hour start to become uncomfortable.)
Edit: One last thing! If youâre going for a full body look and planning to actually wear it for a bit, get the crotch zipper, so you donât have to strip to pee. (I didnât because I kept thinking I wasnât gonna boink her while she wore it, because I have a one track mind, and that was a dumb decision.)
This story is worthless without pics of your wife.
I mean if weâre asking, Iâll take one of Mr Husband. He sounds hot.
/j
Alas, like a dragon, there are some elements of my (and others) privacy that I hoard.
Is it really conformist monochrome? Never been there, but I can hardly resist asking you for sharing a story.
Yeah, if you look up Seoul walking tour videos on YouTube, youâll see for yourself: Koreans are obsessed with black, white, and gray.
Meanwhile in any other Asian country âŠ
On the other side of the coin, you have to really go out of your way to find colors of certain things that arenât navy, grey, black, or white in Japan. I wear polos to work and I havenât seen one outside those colors in at least a few years now. Part of the problem is the fact that I need to shop in the fat dude section (which was true even before I was a fat dude because normal shirts here arenât designed for broad shoulders), but even in the rest of the store the color selections arenât great. I also live in the ass end of nowhere, so Iâm sure thereâd be more selection in like tokyo.
Well, menâs clothes are more muted in general, and youâre out of the usual size range, so thereâs going to be less choice ⊠I have to admit, I donât really look at men while out and about, so Iâm just going off womenâs clothing choices. And my opinion is formed from Vietnam, Singapore, and China
Iâve been there multiple times and can confirm. Among the younger population itâs like 90% black and white clothing. That number goes down as you look at older groups. However, almost all of the cars are also black or white.
I stuck out like a sore thumb wearing pink, orange, green, etc. Last time I went, I was in Seoul for a whole week. I saw one young person wearing pink, and maybe 10 young people wearing colorful outfits.
I bet Iâd still stand out wearing the exact same thing in San Fransisco, CA.
Interesting city choice. It, uh, might be noticed but I donât think âstand outâ is the right vibe.
New York, Chicago, Minneapolis, LA? Definitely. San Francisco? Soft maybe
Iâm a 6â6ââ dude who looks like a metalhead. I could probably still stand out on Castro street if I wore this.
Prove it.
There is much more to see on Castro than a big dude wearing a pretty dress. I may glance but I gotta pay attention to the other mayhem happening around me.
Makes sense. Pretending to be something youâre not is helpful when seeking an asymmetrical relationship with an unbalanced power dynamic in your favor.
Sounds like a gonewild post âMy first time, be nice guysâ âHereâs my asshole spread 2 inches awayâ
I donât get it. We can all agree that fuccbois and PUAs are gross, but weâre all celebrating this personâs recent posts?
If this were a white guy bragging about how easy it is to bang Korean MILFs, yâall would not be in here with the same type of comments.
The difference is power structures and cultural incentives. Fuckboys tend to not react pleasantly to being turned down. I get more âhimboâ (keeping the male parallel theme going) vibes from Violet. Sheâs down to clown, isnât afraid to let that be known, but nothing screams that anything nonconsensual is happening here.
People fuck, who cares? She doesnât appear to be hurting anyone. Her posts are funny, it doesnât need to be deep.
But you canât actually reverse roles as a direct 1:1 because womenâs sexuality, bodily autonomy, authority arenât treated equal to menâs. Itâs inherently different because there isnât actually a direct inverse. I do think a post similar to this about a cute femboy wearing something similar in a similar situation would be getting upvotes and comments.
Your comment just reads like âyou can be a man or be politicalâ and think people only like this because itâs âpoliticalâ aka woke but there shouldnât be anything woke about a woman being sexually liberated, practicing choice and autonomy or refusing to conform, she has every right and I support that.
Bro, she ainât gonna fuck you
/s
I was expecting this comment though lol, but girls support girls is my motto
Did you make the /s super small? Like you wanted the littlest deniability that you werenât serious. We know youâre kidding, itâs just a weak joke. Like theyâre discussing feminism on Lemmy to get laid? Get some better material
so like, it didnt even cross my mind that this fit was to get some dick, but rather about being different even though one is shy
I can smell jealousy from a mile away, man. If you want to wear a skimpy outfit, by all means.
Whatâs a PUA?
Pick-up artist
Violet is super annoying but I guess guys like a thirsty, horny Lemmy user? For all we know, itâs a guy.
Still more fun than a scold, no?
PUAs? Is violet negging groups of guys or getting them drunk so she can rape them?
lol, in an outfit like that none of the guys you meet are going to last a worthwhile about of time
Youâre desperate for attention. Doesnât mean you actually want to talk to any of the people who take the bait.
At peril of stating the obvious:
You did. You commented.
I interpreted this as not really a condemnation, but explanation. As in, a person dresses this way because they want to be looked at, but it isnât an invitation to interact, but explained in second person.
Thatâs very charitable. I can see it.
Or maybe she just likes looking good? Iâm shy and I like to dress up because it makes me feel more confident about myself.
Well two small things: first, thereâs a lot of ways to look good, and I donât buy âjust likes looking good, doesnât want attentionâ when there are ways to look good without drawing attention. There must be a reason to override that desire not to attract attention.
Second⊠I mean, itâs violets, we donât really need to speculate!
Indeed. Sheâs been very upfront about the fact that sheâs seeking validation and amusement in the form of attention from men who are sexually repressed by their culture and has no intentions of returning any of the attention she receives from them unless it benefits her. Many Korean hearts will be broken this summer.
But hey, at least we get to upvote the memes about it and cheer for âgirl powerâ right?
The people hated him because he showed them the truth.